My Story
Hey there! I am Chen Reznik-Moran, a couples counselor, happily living in Harish with my husband and two kids.
How did I get into couples counseling?
I learned firsthand the intensity of a relationship burnout, which led us to a severe crisis and almost to the end of our marriage, with a signed mediation agreement and joint custody of a toddler and a baby. After a few months, we decided to get back and rehabilitate the marriage, and since then we evolved and grew, building a strong relationship and a stable foundation that would also hold us during crises yet to come. When we felt stable and loving enough, we also decided to open up our marriage and live in a hierarchical polyamory, with our relationship at the forefront.
The sense of mission in light of everything I went through led me to study Couples Counseling in Gome Gevim college, and helped me rearrange my priorities, with our relationship somewhere at the top of the ladder. I also studied divorce mediation, and I'm currently studying sexual counseling.
In the past few years I also volunteered in "Paamonim" and helped families which needed guidance in their financial behavior. This has taught me a lot about dealing with relationship crisis and helped me discover my true mission.
And what is it like today?
Today I meet couples and individuals in Harish or on Zoom, give lectures on relationships and non-monogamy, and aspire to help others create nurturing and supportive relationships. The counseling process is done without a sense of judgement, realizing that no one taught us how to maintain a healthy relationship - welcome to the school of relationships!
Chen Reznik-Moran
How many of us know how to not lose ourselves within the relationship,and on the other hand, also not lose the relationship due to 'self' glorifying?
My core belief
I am a missionary.
Yes, indeed.
I am a missionary of relationships.
I wholeheartedly believe that life is better when the relationship is healthy and healing.
Yes, I am polyamorous. Yes, I am proud of my lifestyle and love talking about it and being interviewed about it, because I think it's a legitimate way of life that needs to come out of the shadows and shed the cloak of shame to enter more into discourse and awareness. No, I don't think this lifestyle is suitable for everyone, I certainly don't recommend it to everyone, I have no interest in "converting" people to polyamory, I think everyone should live the way they choose to live.
In recent years, I've made a leap in my relationship, personal development, sharing my deep thoughts and experiences, and also in understanding that I can really help others, something I never believed I could do.
Today I am confident in my abilities, and I operate through several channels to develop and learn. I know what I bring to the world, I bring my professional, non-judgmental, and non-critical self, I bring Chen who thinks that most couples can succeed in relationships and be happy together, I also completely respect and understand those who are not in any relationship - by choice or not - because being in a relationship does not guarantee happiness.
A healthy relationship requires a lot of work, awareness, motivation, taking responsibility and the ability to internally reflect, and sometimes it simply doesn't work - I don't see divorce as a failure, it's another possibility in life. As mentioned before, I believe that every way of living is a choice, and if one chooses to be in a relationship - then it's better to have wellness, love, and connection.